Hey single superstars!
Doesn’t life just seem, well, overwhelming? Whether you share custody and parenting time with another parent or not, it seems that the urgent things in life overtake the important things. Today let’s discuss 3 steps you can take to simplify single parent madness.
Step 1: Write it All Down
Give the kids a 30-minute show to watch and take some time at the kitchen table to make a list of everything that you do. I mean everything! Do not worry about when you are going to do it, just list it all out. If you need multiple pages, no worries, just staple it all together when you are done.
Step 2: Highlight the Important
Get out a red marker and place a large ‘T’ beside the tasks that need to happen today. Do not focus on any activity except activities that must be done today. Look through that list to see if there are any chores you can delegate to your children.
Step 3: Set the Timer
Now comes the fun part! Once the children’s show is over, call them into the kitchen and tell them what you all are going to do. Set a timer on your phone (we use the iPad at our house because it’s bigger and the kids can see the countdown timer easily). Ensure you mark with an initial the tasks that each person is responsible for. Ensure your children understand the task, then set the timer and hit ‘Go!’ Something we do to make this more fun is to give a reward if they go ‘above and beyond’ with the task.
Then, you simply divide and conquer! If you are working on household chores, for example, if one person is folding laundry, another can be emptying the dishwasher. Someone else can be sweeping the kitchen floor. Another can be taking out the trash.
You can immediately see the difference in your home
You will not feel guilty when you want to relax
Your children will have a sense of accomplishment and maybe gain a skill or two in the process
Remember, building good habits like these for yourself will always translate into your children’s lives. Now get going! We’ll handle all of that other stuff we’ve listed in another post, so keep it handy.
P.S. What is one area of your life that you struggle with maintaining control of? I’d love to hear your comments below.