Happy Monday readers! Welcome to our last installment of our ‘Welcome to Single Mom Life’ series, a series geared towards new single moms. I know life is completely overwhelming right now, and this post is just for you! Make sure to scroll through the blog posts to see the two other posts in this series.
Also, at the bottom of this post I’ll mention the newest blog series that will be starting soon! So excited to tell you more below!
Now, let’s discuss 4 tips to GO and make it happen as a brand new single mom:
Tip 1: Stand Strong on the Front Lines
As single moms, we are on the front lines of life each and every day. You’ve got an important decision to make. You can either fall under the weight of the mighty responsibility that rests on your shoulders, or you can stand strong and proud, knowing that with God you have the strength and power to stand strong through the difficulty each day brings. Do not allow yourself to feel hopeless or begin to despair. I know it’s easy to wonder why you are even here sometimes, or why God has allowed all of these things into your life. He’s allowed these things to grow you and make you stronger. God isn’t as concerned with our happiness as He is with the type of people that we become.
God isn’t as concerned with our happiness as He is with the type of people that we become.
Tip 2: Shake off the Past
The most difficult thing to move away from is the past, especially if you are a new single mom and everything is still raw and fresh. You might spend more time than you care to admit thinking about the past. You might become stuck in the present because you feel trapped with guilt, shame or fear of your past mistakes or the pain others have inflicted on you. You might feel like cheap, used goods.
However, we read in the book of Psalms that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made…” each of us a unique creation. Do not allow yourself to be held back by untruths any longer. Make a list of all of the accomplishments you’ve achieved in your life time. Write down all of the things you’ve done to help your children and family this week. Look at yourself in the mirror and congratulate yourself! Whatever has happened in the past, God will not leave you and will heal you. Believe that He as good plans in store for you.
Tip 3: Take a Night Off
If you are anything like me, you overwork yourself until you cannot go any longer. Before you know it, you are grouchy to everyone around you and wonder why we do this to ourselves! Please take it from me! Plan a night off each week. Whether it’s a night when the kids are with another parent, or whether you hire someone for a few hours one night a week, get away from your house and from the daily routines of life. As a single parent, you need to be serious with your daily and weekly planning. Make it something that both you and your children look forward to!
Tip 4: Ask for Help
As single moms, many times we feel like a burden to people, many of which have families of their own. You are not a burden to anyone! Reach out to a group or family at your church or workplace. Be honest about what you need help with. Offer to babysit in exchange for home maintenance, repairs or take the time to learn some new skills from someone willing to teach you! Do not allow yourself to become isolated because you are a single mom. Get out there and get involved! Before you know it you’ll have a group of people more than willing to help you.
I hope these tips help! More than anything, refuse to feel defeat over your current circumstances. Count your blessings, and realize there is an important purpose you are to fulfill in this life!
Announcement: August Blog Series: The Organized Single Mom
I’m excited to announce that this month I’ll be posting a series of video and written posts for single moms to get and stay organized in their minds, homes, cars and even at work! I know how much organization has helped my life as a single mom, and I would like to share some of my favorite tips with all of you! So stay tuned for the first in our new series kicking off Tuesday, September 8!