Dedicated to Alexa
Interesting how I chose the word “ready”, right? As if one can ever be ready for such abrupt changes that the single parenting life brings. However, one thing is for certain. You and I, whether we like it or not, must adapt to this new life. Let me be the first to tell you, dear one, you are about to enter into the most wild and exciting journey of your life! Let’s get started!
Ready Tip 1: Put on your Oxygen Mask First
If you’ve ever been on a plane, you know the instructions include putting on your oxygen mask first before helping anyone else dear to you. Why? Friend, if you have no oxygen, I can promise you that you will not be helping others! As a new single mom, you’ve had more than your fair share of disappointment and heartache. You need to fuel yourself with oxygen each and every morning, no question about it. Elite athletes have their rituals, and my encouragement to you is to begin a morning ritual as soon as possible. Part of that ritual needs to include bible study, prayer and exercise. Friends, there are just no exception to this rule. I am up at 5:00 in order to make this happen. No, I am NOT Superwoman, but one thing I can tell you. I’ve learned the hard way, if I don’t make time for God to speak to my heart, get my mind right with him and get my body awake and strong for the day ahead, I’m fighting a losing battle. This world will beat you up! You and I must be ready to attack it head on!
Ready Tip 2: Set a Goal
Remember that Life Plan we talked about in the first post? Even if you haven’t started working through it, one thing I want to encourage you to do. Pick a goal. Any goal you want. Not 3 goals or 5 goals, just one goal. Maybe it’s to stick to the morning routine we just discussed. Maybe it’s to eat healthier. Maybe it’s to go see a counselor or coach to get advice as you walk through this difficult season. Whatever it is, pick one goal right now, and post it on index cards in your bathroom, kitchen, anywhere you are forced to look at it every day. The best thing you can do for yourself is move forward into the future and work towards a goal, accomplish it, and celebrate YOU. You must believe in yourself again, mom. You must show yourself that no matter what has happened, you can absolutely face anything because you believe in yourself. You can do this!
Ready Tip 3: Rest in God’s Peace and Protection
Single parenting is hard enough. Throw in some intense legal battles, and it can be enough to send even the best of us overboard! One thing I’ve learned through my own battles is this. Do not judge your life by what you see around you. Yes, you might be in a legal battle over finances or your children. You might be attempting to secure employment yet have no job offers in sight. You might not be sure how you will pay next week’s bills. However, no matter what the circumstances we face, God is the constant throughout them all. As he shares so beautifully through Isaiah:
You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you. Isaiah 26:3
I know it’s hard to trust God when so much bad has happened and continues to happen. I know it’s easy to doubt his goodness and purpose when you’re walking through a valley so deep you think you’ll never get out. Possibly even the church has turned on you in the past, or you feel rejected even now. Divorce and single motherhood can sometimes feel like you are walking around with a marked “X” on your back or you’ve been somehow relegated to a 2nd classperson. However, none of this is true. What is true is the verse quoted above. Look to God for the answers in the trials you are facing. You might not get out of them tomorrow, but in the meantime, stop looking around and instead look up. Read the Bible, pray and trust that God is working in the background to bring about His wonderful plans. Stay with Him, no matter what ups and downs you face each day, and he will grant you the perfect peace as he states in this verse.
Take encouragement today, dear one, and remember that you are not alone! Come join us over on our Facebook and leave a comment! We would love to hear from you!
What is the one thing you feel is the hardest to trust God for?
Stay tuned for our next post in this new single mom series, “Welcome to Single Mom Life – Set…” coming on Wednesday!